Friday has come and gone and there is still no contract in place. Please pray for us right now. I am freaking out inside and worried about our match with our genetic family not going through. A minor misunderstanding has escalated a bit and while we have conceeded the point of disagreement, it has caused our genetic family to have some hesitation about us. This weekend we find ourselves at a critical point in our adoption journey. The Snowflakes coordinator (and Dan and I) are waiting to hear from the genetic family about their final decision on the contract and if they wish to move forward with signing the embryo donation agreement. Please pray that our genetic family will realize that we are trustworthy and would do an amazing job raising their embryos. Please pray that we would experience peace in this difficult period of waiting. It is hard not to have control over this situation. I don't know what else to say right now. I feel really discouraged, anxious, sad. . . you get the picture.
Lord, give me hope and encouragement during this hard time.
Update (Monday 3/22) - No word from Snowflakes today. I can't take much more of this. I am going to write a letter to our donor family to be passed on to them through our Snowflakes coordinator. Time to plead our case.
Update (Tuesday 3/23) - Our Snowflakes coordinator loved our letter to our donor family and sent it off to them (via email) this morning. I am praying that we get a response tomorrow (Wed.)!
Update (Wednesday 3/24) - No news today. Bummer.
Update (Thursday 3/25) - No news again today. Our Snowflakes coordinator doesn't work on Fridays so the earliest we will hear from our donor family is Saturday. I am having a hard time focusing at work. I can tell my body is really feeling the stress of this situation. I spent various moments in prayer at work today. My prayers are basically two-fold: asking God for the desire of my heart and submitting my will to God's. I don't understand the long silence on the part of our donor family. If they have changed their mind they should just tell us. We have said yes to everything they wanted in the contract. They have agreed to the changes that we wanted in the contract. I am praying that God works in their hearts to move towards a final decision so we can either rejoice or start over.
Update (Saturday 3/27) - I called our Snowflakes coordinator today. She confirmed that our donor family has not contacted her since the 18th. At this point our coordinator recommended that we wait until April 1st to see if they contact her and then at that time if they haven't we will begin to look for another match. I am glad we at least have a plan.
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"Lord, in my heart I plan my course, but You determine my steps (Prov. 16:9) Life is not going as I planned. I am so grateful that You are not caught off guard. You knew everything that would befall me. Please direct my steps as You determine. I need You, Lord. Carry me when I cannot walk."
As someone who loves you two dearly, it is so hard to see you discouraged, anxious, and sad. I am praying for you right now and will keep praying. Love you so much.
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Remember Jeremiah 29:11! Praying for you during this stressful time.
I am so sorry to read this!!! I wouldn't wish this on anyone!!! Praying for you!!!
Hugs!!!
I'm so sorry to hear this...Praying for you and hope to hear some good news soon! :)
I found your blog through jens, I am a embie adopt mommie myself.We had our little boy this december. I am so sorry to hear that things are rough right now, I am sure hoping that they work out for you.I look forward to following your story and I would be honored to have you follow ours. We are tenantively planning a transfer later this year with our other donated embies.Please keep us posted I am hoping that you get wonderful news soon.If I can be of any help or support to you please let me know, Megan
I just found your blog through Womb for 1 more. I am so sorry. I was RIGHT THERE where you are. It took our genetic family TWO MONTHS to sign the contract. I felt AGONY, DESPAIR, DISAPPOINTMENT, FRUSTRATION, and an overall sense of, "Why, oh why can't things just be easy FOR ONCE?!?" Are you personally in contact with the genetic family? If not, here is what I did. I found the mom on Facebook and sent a message introducing myself. After a few days, she friend requested me and messaged me back. We opened up the lines of communication and I did the only thing that was within my control. Perhaps this could help you out as well. At the point, you have nothing to lose. If they are uncomfortable with this, then maybe they aren't the family for you. Best of luck and thinking of you.
Now GO, Girl! Get on FB!!!
My dear friend, I know not how to help but to offer a hand to hold from afar and many hugs. And of course prayer for strength and resolution. I admire your courage on this journey. Love you. xoxo
I'm so sorry to hear this, Elizabeth! Have you gotten word?
We will be praying tonight that your letter will be the confirmation that the donor family needs. Hang in there.
I hope you get some good news soon!
Thinking about you guys!!!
Don't know what to say. Just really praying for you.
I know the feeling of the submitting to God nearly minute-by-minute... sometimes seems like each day is made up of just too many 'minutes' to handle...
I am sorry that you are having to endure the silence, but please know you are in my (and from what it seems, many many peoples') thoughts and prayers.
Something I have often held onto is that with time, God will bring things to completion -- do I know the time-frame? No : /, but I trust that the wait is all part of the active process that God has me in--and that with painstaking patience and perseverance, I trust (one day at a time) that it will all be worth it in the end... hope you can find a morsel (however small!)of encouragement or hope in that :/ I am confident that God has this all worked out and that in the end your story will be complete and beautiful!
Hi, I just found your blog today and was excited to find someone who is actually pursuing embryo adoption. We're still coming up with a game plan but are seriously considering this. I'd love to know how your experiences are going with the various agencies you applied with. We have been looking into Miracles Waiting and NEDC
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