Released! The Tale of Two OB/GYNs

 At our last appointment with our RE (Dr. K) he released us to my OB/GYN at 10 weeks pregnant.  I stopped taking my shots a week ago and this past week I have felt more pregnant than ever.  I don't know if the meds were protecting me from certain symptoms or if just being further along has brought them on stronger.  I have been more tired, more hungry (all day and night long), and I started to get the all day long nausea.  Honestly, I don't mind one bit.  It gives me comfort to have strong symptoms.  I work all day and literally come home get into pjs eat take out (which Dan usually brings home) and am fast asleep before 9pm.  (In my defense I do get up at 5am for work everyday.)  This growing a baby thing must be hard work for the body because mine is worn out!


Leaving Dr. K and the Very Clueless OB Office
I have to admit that it was sad for me to leave Dr. K.  He is like a security blanket in all of this infertility/pregnancy stuff.  I trust him, he encourages me, he is so knowledgeable, he is dependable, his staff is respectful and kind, and I am used to the highest level of service that they provide.  We just moved to our current home a few years ago and so last October before our first FET I decided upon a new OB/GYN who was recommended to me.  My experience fell far below my expectations.  While I know no doctor will understand our situation quite like Dr. K this OB and his group made me frustrated.  First it is not that close to us (although out in dairy country nothing really is super close).  Second, after working all day and then rushing to make my appointment I had to wait 45 minutes past my appointment time to be seen.  I asked another patient if that was normal and she said yes.  Third, the office staff was not so friendly; I felt more like an intruder rather than a guest in their office.  But the icing on the cake was meeting the doctor.  In his defense he was really nice.  We talked about my infertility, my weight loss, and my upcoming FET.  After explaining what we were going to be doing (FET with donor embryos) because he had NEVER heard about it before, he just looked at me and asked, "So how come you just didn't do IVF?"  I knew he wasn't mocking our choice to do donor embryos.  He genuinely wanted to understand our choices so I educated him by giving him a very frank and thorough response to which he simply replied, "Oh."  While this is no reflection on his ability as a doctor or even his bedside manner necessarily, I just hate that I have to explain myself in detail to a new doctor.  And honestly people!  This is the 2010s!!  What OB in Southern California has never heard of embryo donation???   I left that appointment a bit unsettled.  But when I called back this past Monday to schedule my first OB appointment with him for when I am 12 weeks pregnant like Dr. K instructed me to the secretary informed me that I must make an appointment to see a nurse first and then they would decide if I could have an appointment with the Dr.  I tried to explain to her that it has taken me SEVEN years to get pregnant and that I was already 11 weeks along and needed to see the Dr. and not the nurse next week.  She wouldn't have any of it.  After I already explained that I was being released from my RE she asked for the first date of my last period.  Seriously???  Lady I haven't had a period in like five months because of birth control!  She was clueless.  She was totally rude and then put me on hold for 10 min. to see if there were any appointments at all.  Dan told me to hang up and I did. 

Enter the new OB office. 
I had just received a different referral from a friend and after some research and learning that several of my coworkers had used this OB office and loved it we decided to call them and see how it went.  WHAT A DIFFERENCE!  The receptionist was wonderfully kind.  She didn't put me on hold.  She (the secretary) knew exactly what embryo donation was because their office specializes in working with infertility patients and high risk pregnancies.   I rejoiced in my heart because I knew that coming here I would be understood without having to explain myself and defend why I might be a bit more nervous than most pregnant women.  She made me an appointment with the doctor that I preferred for this coming Tuesday and then scheduled all of my upcoming appointments (every four weeks) through the month of August!!!  We totally made the right choice.  I feel comfortable going to my new OB now and look forward to seeing Baby Shack again on the ultrasound machine!  Oh and the hospital that we will be delivering at is amazingly nice.  I am so thankful for good medical insurance so we can go there.  I only have one more week left in my first trimester!  I am getting more and more excited everyday.